Beyond Religion: Spirituality Talks with Mom
We discussed religion and spirituality during a recent call with my 89-year-old mother, a Catholic. She believes one remains part of their birth religion unless they formally convert. She saw no possibility for deep spirituality outside organized religion. This conversation inspired me to share that spirituality transcends religious boundaries and can be found in various forms.
First, let’s differentiate between religion and spirituality. Religion involves organized beliefs, practices, and rituals to connect with a higher power or deity. Spirituality is a personal, subjective experience encompassing our inner beliefs, values, and purpose. It helps us make sense of the world, find meaning in our lives, and connect with something greater.
Limiting spirituality to organized religion overlooks the rich tapestry of spiritual experiences outside those boundaries. Some find solace in nature, art, or relationships, while others practice mindfulness, contemplation, or explore ancient wisdom traditions. Spirituality can be fluid, evolving, and adaptable, allowing many to embrace an open-minded and inclusive approach that transcends religious labels.
Inclusive spirituality acknowledges unique expressions across cultures and traditions. Indigenous cultures worldwide have practiced spirituality for centuries, connecting with the land and ancestors. So, how can we nurture our spiritual selves without a specific religious tradition? Consider these ideas:
- Cultivate self-awareness: Reflect on your beliefs, values, and purpose. Ask questions like “What gives my life meaning?” or “What are my core values?” This self-discovery process can help you develop an authentic spiritual path.
- Seek diverse inspiration: Read books, listen to podcasts, and attend workshops that explore different spiritual perspectives. Exposure to various ideas can enrich your spiritual journey.
- Engage in spiritual practices: Connect with your inner self and foster awe and gratitude through meditation, yoga, journaling, or spending time in nature. Participate in community service to connect with the world around you.
- Cultivate compassion and empathy: Practicing kindness, understanding, and forgiveness can deepen connections with others and foster unity. Engage in conversations with diverse backgrounds to learn from their experiences.
- Embrace curiosity and open-mindedness: Question your beliefs and consider new ideas. Recognize that your spiritual path may change and evolve, staying open to personal growth.
- Establish a spiritual support network: Connect with like-minded individuals who share your values and interests—joining communities, whether meditation groups or interfaith organizations, can provide support and shared experiences.
- Prioritize self-care and well-being: Nurturing your spiritual self involves caring for your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Prioritize relaxation, self-reflection, and wellness through exercise, healthy eating, and balanced living.
- Share your spiritual journey: Discuss your experiences and insights with others to deepen understanding and appreciation for diverse paths. Sharing can inspire others to explore their spirituality, fostering an inclusive world.
Respecting and honoring each person’s spiritual journey, regardless of religious affiliation or lack thereof, is essential. As seekers, we strive to make sense of the world, find meaning, and connect with something greater. Embracing individual paths and supporting one another can create a world where spiritual exploration is accepted and celebrated, fostering mutual understanding and compassion.
Our spiritual needs and interests may shift and evolve throughout life, reflecting our growth and personal experiences. Recognizing that no one-size-fits-all approach to spirituality allows for personal growth, exploration, and transformation, opening doors to new perspectives and connections.
My conversation with my mother was a powerful reminder to embrace diverse spiritual paths. Our individual journeys contribute to the beautiful tapestry of human spirituality, each thread unique and vital to the whole. Respecting and honoring these unique paths can help build a more compassionate, inclusive, and spiritually vibrant world where we all learn from and appreciate one another’s experiences and wisdom.
With blessings and appreciation from Santa Fe, NM,
Dr. Mark
